*I LOVE MY CHILDREN*
And I know that the way I raise them is not in particular to the way others would. I am way too lenient and I let them get away with far more than some think I should. I have really never enforced the chore rule. I figure if I am home all day, with really nothing that pressing to do, then the chores pretty much fall on me. They are at school for 8 hours a day. That IS their job as far as I am concerned. It may or may not be physically straining, but sometimes then mental aspects will drain you all the more.I don't and will not put a leash on my kids. Yes, I allow them to run after school. We live in a trailer park 2 city blocks squared. Not much room to run. And EVERYONE knows my kids. So I really don't worry too much about them getting hurt. You can drive thru here at anytime kids are out and see the neighbours poking their heads out checking on the kids playing. Even if they aren't necessarily theirs. Very nice to have that security.
I cannot see the benefit of keeping kids locked up 24/7. They need to be able to get out and to socialize. Make friends. And if they screw up then so be it. You teach them very early on there are consequences to their actions. They know this. So whatever they do it falls on them. They will be little adults soon as is. The world is not all roses and rainbows. And you cannot shelter your kids forever. If that's my throwing them to the proverbial wolves, so be it. I would rather them be somewhat prepared, then totally blindsided when the day comes they have to face life on their own.
*RICK*
I CANNOT feel sorry for what Rick is going thru at the moment. I believe in Karma and that she is a total bitch. I think that what Janie is doing is justified and right. And maybe he will get his head out of his ass and start taking care of his kids. I seriously doubt it but you know, it's a thought. I just think it's hilarious that all this time I have been the bitch and she just didn't have it in her to be. WOW!!! Isn't this an eye opener?lmao!!! I am sorry but if he would have just sucked it up and taken on the responsibilities that were his, then things may have turned out different for him.*FINANCES*
I hate being broke. And I do feel somewhat responsible. I should have a job. I should be working,but...I know there's always a 'but' in there. It just doesn't make sense to me to do so. I mean pretty much we have everything that we need. And if we were better at managing $$$ we wouldn't be broke,but that's life. I cannot see the benefit to my working. We would have more bills going out in the long run than with me home. The extra gas, child care, food, etc... Not to mention, this is a very important few years in our kids lives. They are going to be going thru and having to deal with somethings now, that they shouldn't have to deal with on their own. And for the most part I think they want me here too. They would never admit it though lol
Okay, I need to check this more often, & we'll see if this works...lol
ReplyDeleteYou are a good mom, you've got a good bunch of kiddo's, & there's nothing wrong with you staying home.
It gets old being broke all the time, but your kids only need you for so long. We think it'll be forever when they're little, then one day we wake up & they're growing up.
Plenty of time to "have fun" when they're grown...& honestly, I have no clue what I'm going to do with myself when I don't have the kiddo home anymore...*sigh*....getting older sucks lol